Cherish - Gary Thomas

I should be positive about any book that encourages people in their marriage. Marriage is a wonderful God designed institution. 

This just felt so similar to other books I've read by pastors whose wives like flowers, lots of phone calls, chit chatting, discount shopping, food reviewers, and probably scrapbooking. 

No crime here people.

Lots of good sermonic anecdotes and stories about people who made it in marriage and some who didn't. 

It's very nice.

I like the word cherish. It's a good word.

I could certainly improve in this area.

There are some basic orientations that men and women have. We have to be careful about gender generalizations. Some characteristics are more based on temperament than gender I think. I do believe that John Eldredge nailed it better than many myriad other marriage handbooks. He says men are asking the question "Do I have what it takes?" and women are asking the question "am I captivating?" But that's pretty much one of the only things that I think may be true intrinsically across the board. Many other differences between people are based on temperament or background.

I think people who are visionary types are often drawn to nuts and bolts people then they write books about how they learn to navigate this divide in a nice way. That's good, but overdone.